Saturday, 7 January 2017
Learnings from 2016
For many people 2016 was seen as a bad year, and yes for a lot of reasons it really was, but for me 2016 was the year I finally understood how to take control and create really positive change for myself and for those closest to me. Here are some of the things I learnt:
- Make a yearly plan. I know, that sounds terrifying but at the beginning of 2016 I wrote exactly what I wanted to focus on for the year and I actually managed to do most of it! I stayed sane all year (mostly). I strengthened all my relationships. I became and Account Manager for a content agency I love already. I spent more time with friends. I spent more time with family. I actually managed to save some money (this is literally a miricle).
- What you look like really isn't the be all and end all, there is fun to be had! I used to get in such a tis about how I looked and how people viewed me. If I was going out with friends I could get myself really worked up about what I would wear, or the condition of my hair or skin, or my figure... the list goes on. I still sometimes focus on what I look like, however I focus on how I feel from what i'm wearing or my hair/makeup rather than what other people might think.
- Talking to your parents and siblings even more will only make you happier. I really wanted to make more of an effort to do special things with my family and that meant getting in contact more to organise it! I did a really fun mud run with my Mum for Cancer Research and for the first time ever put my parents up for the weekend!
- It's ok to walk away or give up. If something really isn't making you happy in the long run then simply stop doing it, there are other things to spend your time on.
- Confidence is literally everything. I focused on getting my confidence up about myself, this meant looking at my weaknesses in my career and everything else and trying to tackle a few of them head on. I can really say I feel a lot more self assured.
- Asking your closest friends to fill in a questionnaire about you isn't vain or stupid. I read the answers whenever i'm being too hard on myself or feel lost and the answers make me cry happy tears and restore belief in myself.
- You have to actually make time for yourself and others. I have a list of things I know I enjoy or that relax me written in a google doc, whenever I feel anything other than positive and grounded for too many days in a row I check the list and make sure I do at least one of them. They can be as simple as deep breathing and a bath.
I would love to hear what your learnings are from 2016! Let me know on Twitter @jessievshearing
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