Saturday, 7 January 2017

Learnings from 2016

I know we've walked well away from 2016 and I'm probably late to the party (hey, give me a break this is my first post in years) but I wanted to write a few key things I want to take from 2016 into 2017 and beyond.

For many people 2016 was seen as a bad year, and yes for a lot of reasons it really was, but for me 2016 was the year I finally understood how to take control and create really positive change for myself and for those closest to me. Here are some of the things I learnt:

- Make a yearly plan. I know, that sounds terrifying but at the beginning of 2016 I wrote exactly what I wanted to focus on for the year and I actually managed to do most of it! I stayed sane all year (mostly). I strengthened all my relationships. I became and Account Manager for a content agency I love already. I spent more time with friends. I spent more time with family. I actually managed to save some money (this is literally a miricle).

- What you look like really isn't the be all and end all, there is fun to be had! I used to get in such a tis about how I looked and how people viewed me. If I was going out with friends I could get myself really worked up about what I would wear, or the condition of my hair or skin, or my figure... the list goes on. I still sometimes focus on what I look like, however I focus on how I feel from what i'm wearing or my hair/makeup rather than what other people might think.

- Talking to your parents and siblings even more will only make you happier. I really wanted to make more of an effort to do special things with my family and that meant getting in contact more to organise it! I did a really fun mud run with my Mum for Cancer Research and for the first time ever put my parents up for the weekend!

- It's ok to walk away or give up. If something really isn't making you happy in the long run then simply stop doing it, there are other things to spend your time on.

- Confidence is literally everything. I focused on getting my confidence up about myself, this meant looking at my weaknesses in my career and everything else and trying to tackle a few of them head on. I can really say I feel a lot more self assured.

- Asking your closest friends to fill in a questionnaire about you isn't vain or stupid. I read the answers whenever i'm being too hard on myself or feel lost and the answers make me cry happy tears and restore belief in myself.

- You have to actually make time for yourself and others. I have a list of things I know I enjoy or that relax me written in a google doc, whenever I feel anything other than positive and grounded for too many days in a row I check the list and make sure I do at least one of them. They can be as simple as deep breathing and a bath.

I would love to hear what your learnings are from 2016! Let me know on Twitter @jessievshearing


Thursday, 5 January 2017

It Begins

     I'm the blonde and the stunning brunette is my friend Emma who has just launched her blog here.

I'm forcing myself to write a blog post every day for the next month, mainly so I can get into the habit of writing posts, but also to try and find my voice and know who I truly am (on the internet) before I hit public - eeeew! 

I don't know where the need to write and create content has suddenly come from. It's something I have always done for brands through working at advertising agencies and social agencies, but as I've got older I've realised I want to start aligning more with my own values and beliefs rather than the brands I've worked for. So here I am, carving out my own little piece of the internet! I'm sure it is going to be a learning curve!

I've always been about self improvement (my sister reminds me of this often) to the point where I have to consciously give myself a break sometimes, take my foot off the drive peddle for a bit so I can enjoy just being. But this year my mind has hit that proverbial pedal pretty hard, and I've decided to not let up until I've reached a new and improved routine, that includes blogging. Perhaps I'm having my quarter life crisis! Ha.

I want this blog to be a place of can focus - on the aesthetic in my life, mainly through the clothes I wear but also a place people can hopefully come and get a sense of balance and calm

I don't want to create a place where people feel they have to shop straight away, or get what I call an 'itchy feeling' that feels like a rush of self loathing and the need for sudden action. I've felt this so often when looking at different blogs, where I suddenly feel less self worth or I feel I need to do a crazed shop. I want a place of authenticity where it is clear a lot of effort has gone into each post, to bring the craft back to blogging a little.

I hope you enjoy the journey with me! 

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